Creativity and Failing

* If you can, watch the video (4:28) before reading this post.

Rejection sucks. Big time.

No one likes to fail (or fall like in the video above). 

And sometimes, it is just easier not to try.

Because if we don't try, we can't fail.

We don't have to risk rejection.

You may not know this but I struggled quite a bit with the prospect of 'rejection and failure' over the last few weeks.

I recently tried submitting my ideas to various places.

Yes, I was very fortunate to be featured in the Straits Times Get Crafty feature and also on Singapore Motherhood

Those were certainly happy dance of joy moments (figuratively, of course).

And I was very thankful.

But what you didn't see were the moments of rejection.

The ideas that didn't make the cut.

The emails that politely declined my craft ideas.

I won't lie. It was hard at points.

Learning to deal with a rejected idea was not easy.

What? Someone doesn't love that super cool craft idea of mine?

I waddled in self pity for a moment, ranted to my sister on the phone and then went to bed.

Honestly, it seems ridiculous to be upset over a DIY craft submission.
In fact, I really wasn't sure if I ought to share this with you on the blog.

But I decided to share this with you to encourage you.

I want you to know that even I have moments like these.

That everytime we put ourselves out there, we risk failure.
Perhaps even rejection.

It isn't easy.
It may cost you some tears.
It might be painful.
It certainly won't be perfect.

But the cost of not trying is much higher. 
Never moving forward because we were too scared to try.
Not knowing what could possibly have been achieved if we had only dared.

So, c'mon, join me in taking baby steps to put yourself out there.

Because the ones who succeed in the end are the ones who tried.

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Creativity & Moms

I was busy in my studio one afternoon and my son had wandered in.

He asked me for a sheet of sticky label paper.
Then he went straight to the shelf where I store different types of paper and was about to take out a sheet of A4 label paper.

Now these specialty labels are quite expensive but I keep a pack in my studio in case I want to print out something special.

I had given him some of my old scraps to craft with in the past but I wasn't about to give him a fresh new piece.

Plus, the last time I had given him the label scraps, I vaguely recalled him cutting them up into little bits of unrecognisable strips.

So I quickly told him that he couldn't have any today.
It was too expensive.
I pulled out a piece of 'recyclable' paper and asked him to cut that up.

He wasn't too happy and tried to explain that he really needed the sticky paper.

I looked at him and told him again, in no uncertain terms, that the paper was too expensive.

He grudgingly took the piece of 'recyclable' paper and went away.

Later, he came back and asked me for some tape.
I was busy with something and I didn't ask any questions.
So I just tore some out and gave it to him.
Then I went back to my computer to finish what I was doing.

After I was done, we spent some time drawing, playing and eating. 

It wasn't until bedtime when I was reading stories to him in the bedroom that I caught sight of this. 

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A flying car with wings!

At that moment, it all made sense.

And yes, I couldn't help feeling like the bad mum who wouldn't give her son one sheet of sticky paper to create that awesome idea in his head.

But thankfully I remember reading this article (that Dee shared on Twitter) that said, "What motivates tinkerers to keep going through their teen years? Often, it's the desire to circumvent a rule-setting, safety-conscious mother." 

If that article holds true, I think my kids will find lots of opportunities to be creative and they will have me to thank. Haha!

p/s Today's DIY post will be up on the blog tomorrow.